It must be that Oriental wisdom stuff!
The Gweilo provides
Sex, Violence, and Things:
John Kerry to ABC news anchor Peter Jennings:I will stand up and struggle, as others have, to try to get that right balance between violence, and sex, and things.
In my own personal struggle, I find that the proper balance tilts heavily in favour of sex, then things, with violence being greatly underweighted. On the other hand, judging by his marriage to Theresa, I'm betting that John is more of a "things" kinda guy.